Announcing my new book Treat Gently, This Gentle Man
This book is for anyone who needs some solace, some insight, or some companionship from someone who has lived through what countless other adult children have experienced—the impending and actual death of a parent. In spite of ourselves, or because of ourselves, we continue to learn from our parents even as they breathe their last breaths.
Treat Gently, This Gentle Man is a wonderful resource for discussion groups focusing on end of life issues or for an individual exploring his or her own feelings and experiences of losing a parent. Chapter topics include fears of aging, decisions for end of life care, transitions for an elderly parent, and the simple joys of father/daughter companionship. For book club presenters or workshop facilitators, there are discussion questions for each chapter.
Excerpt from Treat Gently, This Gentle Man:
When I slipped the hospital slippers over my father’s blue veined and knotted feet, I was overcome by love for this man who has been such a wonderful father. I felt incredibly tender and blessed by the opportunity. Those feet carried this person for over ninety years. They had toddled down the wooden staircase of his childhood home; they nervously stood at the altar for his marriage; they walked the deck of the USS Jacob Jones during WWII; and they survived my childish glee as I “danced” with him, too short to reach his arms so I stood on his feet. Those feet led me down the aisle at my wedding, and they led him down the aisle for the funerals of his parents, his brother and sister, and his beloved wife.
The images were spiraling through my mind. I’m sure that my father had no idea that my simple task invoked so much love and so many memories. But I didn’t say anything; I just put on his slippers.
“There, Dad. You’re all ready.”